Alpert, Harriet. (Ed.) (1988) WE ARE EVERYWHERE: WRITINGS BY AND ABOUT LESBIAN PARENTS. The Crossing Press.
Available through www.amazon.com.
Benkov, Laura. (1995) REINVENTING THE FAMILY: LESBIAN AND GAY PARENTS. Crown Trade Paperbacks.
Available through www.amazon.com. Examines many aspects of gay and lesbian parenting. Topics include experiences of gays and lesbian parents “coming out” of heterosexual marriages; legal developments in adoptions, foster care, and custody battles; artificial insemination; society’s view of parenting roles; children raised by gay and lesbian parents; and the influence of homophobia. The author’s research is combined with illustrative case studies.
Brill, Stephanie. (2001) THE QUEER PARENT’S PRIMER: A LESBIAN AND GAY FAMILIES’ GUIDE TO NAVIGATING THROUGH A STRAIGHT WORLD. New Harbinger Publications.
Available through www.amazon.com. Through examples and interactive exercises, a proactive, practical approach for dealing with the challenges of defining, protecting, and celebrating queer families is offered. Topics include creating a healthy family, coming out, finding culturally sensitive childcare and schools, and making decisions about spirituality and family celebrations. Also addressed are single parenting, breaking up, and the legal aspects of protecting GLB families.
Brill, Stephanie & Sacks, Preston. (2006) THE NEW ESSENTIAL GUIDE TO LESBIAN CONCEPTION, PREGNANCY, AND BIRTH. Alyson Publications.
Covers the latest information in insemination and fertility technology and is a thorough, practical guide to the physical and emotional stages of pre-conception, pregnancy, and delivery for lesbian women and their partners.
Curry, Hayden, Hertz, Frederick & Doskow, Emily. (2007) LEGAL GUIDE FOR LESBIAN & GAY COUPLES. Nolo Press.
Helps LGBT couples take charge of their legal needs and take steps to define and protect their relationships and children. Addresses same-sex marriage and marriage-like relationships, property ownership, health care directives, estate planning, and parentage questions. With CD containing useful forms.
American Psychological Association. (2005) Committee on lesbian, gay & bisexual concerns, committee on children, youth & families, and committee on women in psychology LESBIAN AND GAY PARENTING.
Available through the American Psychological Association, Washington, DC. This publication is an excellent resource for lesbian and gay parents that includes up-to-date summary of research findings, APA amicus briefs, and other resources.
Clunis, D. Merilee & Green, G. Dorsey. (2003) THE LESBIAN PARENTING BOOK: A GUIDE TO CREATING FAMILIES AND RAISING CHILDREN. Seal Press.
Covers the “how-tos” of lesbian-headed households discussing many germane topics from conception to adoption, addressing homophobia in age-appropriate ways and dealing with a myriad of other societal and school issues.
Gillespie, Peggy, Weston, Kath, Kaeser,Gigi & Martin, April. (1999) LOVE MAKES A FAMILY: PORTRAITS OF LESBIAN, GAY, BISEXUAL, AND TRANSGENDER PARENTS AND THEIR FAMILIES. University of Massachusetts Press.
A collection of informal family portraits and interviews with lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT) parents and their children grew out of a photo exhibit created by photographer Kaeser. Myriad family configurations are presented: gay and lesbian couples, divorced lesbians coparenting, single parents, transgendered parents, and stepparents and their children. From text accompanying the photographs, we learn who these people consider family and why as they speak about their feelings and experiences as part of an LGBT family. The interviews reveal many of the same joys and struggles as found in other families in addition to the challenges of being an LGBT family in a predominantly heterosexual world.
Johnson, Suzanne. FOR LESBIAN PARENTS: YOUR GUIDE TO HELPING YOUR FAMILY GROW UP HAPPY, HEALTHY, AND PROUD.
Lev, Arlene Istar. (2004) THE COMPLETE LESBIAN AND GAY PARENTING GUIDE. Berkley Trade Paperback.
Martin, April. (1993) THE LESBIAN AND GAY PARENTING HANDBOOK: CREATING AND RAISING OUR FAMILIES. Harper Perennial.
An affirming guide for lesbian and gay families.
Mohler, Marie & Frazer, Lacy. (2002) A DONOR INSEMINATION GUIDE: WRITTEN BY AND FOR LESBIAN WOMEN. Harrington Park Press.
These parents of two children conceived through donor insemination share their experiences and offer advice.
Pepper, Rachel. (2005) THE ULTIMATE GUIDE TO PREGNANCY FOR LESBIANS: HOW TO STAY SANE AND CARE FOR YOURSELF FROM PRECONCEPTION THROUGH BIRTH. Cleis Press.
A humorous and insightful guide written by a lesbian mother who herself used donor sperm to conceive.
Pollack, Sandra & Vaughn, Jeanne (Eds.) (1987) POLITICS OF THE HEART: A LESBIAN PARENTING ANTHOLOGY. Firebrand Books.
Wells, Jess. (ed.) (1997). LESBIANS RAISINGS SONS. Alyson Books.
An anthology of first person writings examining the ideas of manhood, of motherhood, of lesbians raising male children in yesterday’s and today’s world. Divided into three segments, the book takes an unflinching and entirely new look at mothering: “New Lessons” examines the way in which sons of lesbians grow up to be different men; “Making a Family” looks at family constructs and “Facing Losses” reveals the heart-breaking reality that many women have had to confront when their families were threatened by homophobic courts and traditions.
Weston, Kath (1991). FAMILIES WE CHOOSE: LESBIANS, GAYS, KINSHIP. Columbia University Press.
In recent decades gay men and lesbians have increasingly portrayed themselves as people who seek not only to maintain ties with blood and adoptive relatives but also to establish families of their own. In Families We Choose, Kath Weston draws upon fieldwork and interviews to explore the ways gay men and lesbians are constructing their own notions of kinship by drawing on the symbolism of love, friendship, and biology. She presents interviewees’ stories of coming out and of their subsequent relations with straight families. She also discusses changes in gay communities that have helped shape contemporary discourse about the gay family. Finally, she addresses the political implications of chosen families.