Thanksgiving is right around the corner. Three cheers to the turkey, family and endless questions about when you’re going to have a baby… Right? Thanksgiving is a stressful holiday for those who are TTC. Maybe you’re just tired of turning down a glass of wine because you’re cycling (and not the fun kind), or maybe you are ready to finally open up. Here is five ways to address the conversation during the holiday season.
- Be prepared. Have a plan of what you’re willing to share and what will remain information you keep close to the vest. This way, when Aunt Susan asks you for the millionth time when you’re going to have a baby you’re not (as) annoyed, you’re ready with a smart answer.
- Get educated. That’s right, know the facts! Be willing to lay down some knowledge to teach them about being sensitive to what you’re going through. Knowledge is power and the more people learn about infertility, the more open the conversation can become.
- Give yourself a break. We know, Clomid has you feeling all types of ways… and it’s okay to lock yourself in the bathroom for a good cry. It’s okay to be sad, it’s okay to be frustrated and its okay to feel outraged. Try not to snap at your family and friends, and try to understand that they love you but just don’t understand.
- Let it out. Release your feelings of embarrassment… Just because you’re struggling with infertility does not mean you’re failing. There is a community of support here for you.
- Invite a friend. Do you have a bestie/supporter/bff/work wife/ forever friend etc? Bring them along. That way, you don’t have to face distant relatives and random family friends alone.
This holiday season, remember you are not alone. 1-in-8 couples, and over 7 million individuals are struggling with infertility… And they’re going to be dealing with this same kind of stress during the holiday season. Sometimes, all you want to do is vent to someone who understands. Try downloading the Glow App on your phone, millions of women use this app to talk to other women dealing with similar struggles, whether it’s PCOS, endometriosis, infertility or just problems with their SO. If you are looking for more support, we are always here for you.
Also, seek out your local Resolve Infertility Support Group by going to resolve.org/support/find-a-support-group/. Other types of support groups can be found here: seattlefertility.com/treatment-options/fertility-counseling-and-support-groups/infertility-support-groups/